I have plenty of friends who have side businesses and want to be full time entrepreneurs, but the struggle isn’t real for them. When they speak to me, they say things like, “Yo, L, I really want to do this, but life’s getting in the way.” They have husbands, baby daddies, bills, jobs, kids – all that.
But guess what? Kids aside, so have I. I’ve been married, I’ve had bills. Shit, at the time of this writing, I still have a job. I have struggles like everyone else. I bleed monthly like the next girl too. But what I don’t allow myself to have are distractions and excuses.
Here are Four Tips to Eliminate Distractions and Excuses:
1. Lock and Load, Babygirl
How many times have you been on your path to greatness, only to get sidetracked by devastation. Bad things happen to all of us; even Beyoncé isn’t immune to pain and struggle. We’ve all been heartbroken, fired or broke beyond our wildest nightmares – hell I know I have. But what makes us winners is staying focused on the end result. When it comes to life, you can be a victim, or you can lock and load. Fuck being helpless. If life kicks you in the face and you land on your ass, smear the blood against the back of your hand as you wipe off your lip, get up and start kicking ass back.
2. Kill the Pity Parties.
We all need to vent and let our feelings out – but allowing ourselves to get caught in the energy of victimhood is a no-no, mama. Victimhood is an energy state that will slow down your momentum. You’ll go from getting shit done at any cost to finding reasons not to do it and hesitate. Don’t give your time and energy to opportunities that deliberately saturate you in self-pity. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
3. Focus on Yourself.
This is so damn obvious. I have friends – and I know you do too – that want so much more out of life, but they’re at an impasse regarding how to get it. Chances are, if you’re like me, you’re doing your best to make it happen for you and them. Unfortunately, what you may not realize until it’s too late is your friends aren’t struggling. They are complacent, and happily complacent. You know how you’ll know? You’ll accomplish something great, and they’ll ask you how, and as soon as you start explaining all the particular details, they’ll cut you off like, “Nah girl that’s too much work.”
Not everyone is willing to do what you’re willing to do. Not everyone will make the sacrifices you make. You will do dumb and stupid shit. You’re human. That’s what we do! We fail and fall so we know the experience firsthand. But what we won’t do is invest our lives into fixing the lives of others around us, hoping they’ll get it together and come to the top with us. Focus on yourself and your intentions – and your dreams – and let them catch up to you.
4. Invest Time and Money Wisely
I’m all for self-help, development and motivation. And I’m all for information products, trainings and coachings that will put you on the next level. But when you’re balls deep in life, you have to make moves. You can’t spend time outlining all the things wrong in your life right now. And you can’t spend a buttload of time trying to throw your money into things that will solve your problems.
If you have $500 to your name, you shouldn’t be investing in some $200 accountability program. One, you need to have “now” money now, and two, you can’t spend that little to get good results. There’s an energy to your money, how you spend it and what you get out of it. You get what you pay for – but your priorities should be first. Spending $200 would leave you desperate and frazzled because you really needed that full $500 for gas and a real emergency – not another fucking Facebook group with a bunch of dreamers.
Choose your business coaching and investments like you choose your cut buddy – with ruthless scrutiny and a strong dose of intuition. Not everyone deserves your time, money and willingness to bend your mind to their energetic reality. If you can’t afford it, don’t pay for the answer. Take action step by step until you GET the answer, and all the sexy scars that come with it.